How I’m Embracing My Body NOW!

October 16, 2018
How I’m Embracing My Body NOW!

If you told my fourteen year old self that at 25 I’d be posting images of my half-naked body and embracing my rolls and what society deems ‘unsightly bits’ I would’ve laughed in your face!  Although at the time I was starving myself and at my lightest weight, I still genuinely believed that I was FAT.  It wasn’t like now where you see average sized women in magazines and on tv, no, this was the Miley Cyrus, Gossip Girl stage where everyone was striving to be skinny.

 

Having just started high school I loved the idea of being able to reinvent myself as the pretty, popular mean girl.  This obviously meant being skinny, so I just wouldn’t eat or at max I would eat one small meal a day.  I remember a stage where my mom would get home from work and ask if I’d eaten that day.  Now looking back I would categorize this as an eating disorder but because I was never skinny enough to look malnourished and it was never something that was addressed I just saw it as stage every teenage girl went through.

 

If I’m being completely honest the self-deprecating  has been an underlying pattern in my life since childhood.  I remember being as young as seven or eight, comparing my body to my sisters naturally long slender body and thinking “why is mine not like hers?” and immediately wishing I could look different.  Well needless to say that carried into my teen years and adulthood.  So now that you’ve seem a snapshot of my history with my body image lets chat about why its different now and what it’s taken to get here.

 

Embracing my body now - body confidence, body positivity, how to be body positive, average girl size, mid size style,

 

For those of you following me on Instagram you know that there’s been a very definite change in my content and that’s because I’ve had a complete mind shift when it comes to body confidence and positive body image.  I feel like for the last two years I’ve been trying to embrace my body with all the rolls and wobbly bits but I still found myself comparing and saying horrible things to myself when I looked in the mirror.  I know some of you can relate to this.  But for some reason I kept circling the same drain of horrible thoughts, until about a month ago when I feel like something just clicked in my brain.

 

These are the three positive changes I’ve made recently that I feel could really benefit or encourage some of you.

 

Addressing and changing my inner dialogue has made the biggest difference for me – basically being aware of that voice inside my head that said things like “I need to be thinner”, “I’d get more cool campaigns if I lost some weight”, “I could NEVER wear that”, “they’ve noticed the stretch marks on my legs I need to hide them!”.  Sound familiar?  The thing about that voice is that it constantly tells me that I’m not good enough and that something needs to change before I can love myself.  Initially it was just about realizing when I was thinking those things and then I slowly started changing it and actually replacing it positive attributes about myself.

 

I started making mental lists of things I love about myself – inside and out.  These are the things that were buried under-neither the negatives previously in the forefront of my mind.  It doesn’t have to happen over night and I’ve found the list growing as you relearn to love myself and the body I’m in.  These are a few examples of the attributes and features on my list: my laugh, warm personality, cheekbones, my bum, hips and full lips.  I used the think it was vain to highlight the things you love about yourself but if you can do that for your loved ones why not do it for yourself?  I’ve also had to change the ranking for what I saw as beautiful because we’ve been taught that it’s the blonde, perfectly toned, naturally slim girl next door,  but why can’t that just be the average women?

 

I’m currently trying to embrace and love the body I have now by wearing clothing that I previously would have disqualified myself from just because I don’t have a model figure.  This is a continuous process, as so many of you know but the thing that has helped immensely with this has been to simply adjust what monopolises my Instagram feed.  Sounds dumb but because I spend a lot of time (more than I should) on the app it honestly has made the biggest difference to follow more women that are my size and body type.  That way I’m not constantly seeing unrealistic exceptions of beauty, of a body that I will likely never have – because I’m not made that way and that’s okay!

 

Pivoting off that I thought I’d share some Instagram accounts that I’ve found inspiring and a breath of fresh air to my news feed in the hopes that they will inspire and encourage you the same way.

 

Embracing my body now - body confidence, body positivity, how to be body positive, average girl size, mid size style,

Embracing my body now - body confidence, body positivity, how to be body positive, average girl size, mid size style,

 

Hannah Gale shares honest tidbits about her life as a full time blogger and mom, mixed in with fashion inserts that don’t make you feel like you need to lose 10kg for them to look remotely acceptable.  Her ‘HG Ten’ Instagram Stories are also a firm favourite in my weekly routine!

 

Lucy Wood is actually more of a YouTube favourite because she honestly and openly talks about her size 14 figure with confidence and it inspires me to accept my body and still dress well.  I’m pretty damn obsessed with her size 14 series where she does honest clothing try-ons and hauls which I find myself smiling throughout.

 

Frances Perks is a mid-size fashion and lifestyle blogger with impeccable style and wonderfully unique & beautiful face.  Her pictures make me want to scrap my entire wardrobe and start over with pieces that frame and enhance my figure rather than hide it.

 

Kate Wasley is a plus size model that makes me want to wear high-waisted bikini’s all through summer embracing every stretch mark, dimple and roll.  In fact Kate is one of the main reasons I felt confident enough to buy two high-waisted bikini’s for this Summer – now just to wear them in public!

 

This is a tough post for me because I’m leaving myself vulnerable to scrutiny and horrible comments but I really do hope that if it gives even one of you a spark of inspiration to start embracing your body and loving yourself then it will be worth it!

I’d love to write more about this, if you guys are interested please leave me a comment.  Also if you have any feedback or helpful tips to add to this please write them in the comments – lets continue the conversation there!

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12 comments

Candice October 16, 2018 - 6:46 PM

Really friend. So proud!!!! You do inspire. You do encourage. You do push people to accept themselves. And that’s just the most beautiful thing xxx

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Megan October 16, 2018 - 7:10 PM

Hi Lechelle! I love this new approach and it s inspiring to see the evolution. I started following you because you were a curvy girl and I admired your style as I really struggle to dress my curves. We’re a similar build…short and a bit stout and bigger in the midsection so I would be really interested in getting more style tips 🙂 and how to work my curvy angles

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Gillian October 16, 2018 - 7:38 PM

OMW! Jy is pragtig!

This post is so motivational and real. The world paints a picture of what one should look like to be accepted but it’s people like you who embraces and makes a change. Keep it up babe. Loved this blog.

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Robyn October 16, 2018 - 8:01 PM

This is a great read and you are stunning lady! I sometimes feel like my body is way to curvy for my personality if you know what I mean. Having these giant ‘IN YOUR FACE’, bum and boobs and quiet personality just doesn’t quite fit. The baggy style clothes that I like makes me look like frumpy and the tighter clothes make me look like I was melted down and poured into my clothes. It’s tough but definitely getting easier when you read these kinds of posts and start unlearning all the negative thought patterns. Having this bigger body has forced me to make some of my own clothes so that I can actually wear things I like which is actually a plus for my sewing skills. Anyway, keep up the amazing work🙂

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Donna Ramirez October 16, 2018 - 11:09 PM

Love this! It’s so difficult to love yourself with no reservations but it’s SO great when you learn how! Its something so many of us struggle with. Love your blog. X

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Ashleigh October 17, 2018 - 12:44 AM

I absolutely love this! I’m not a size 14, BUT I am constantly “mean” to my body without even realizing it. I need to change that. Thanks for sharing your story 🌸

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Nicolene October 17, 2018 - 4:28 AM

Wow Lechelle! Super proud of you 🙂 please continue with such posts, you truly inspire us all! You’re so beautiful and there is nothing to be ashamed about or hide!! Keep on being you xoxxo

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Lalannie Knoll October 17, 2018 - 5:15 AM

I have noticed the change in your instagram and it is so refreshing! Sometimes, social media can be very ‘same same’ and it’s when people start owning who they are, that it sets them apart.
I too, have and still struggle with body confidence – Igrowing up I was always lanky and hated my body then picked up weight and hated that too. My poor body has gone through so much – my body weight being like a toy yo-yo! I have realized that size is just a number. I now wear clothes that suit my body regardless of the number. If I feel good in it, then it’s a win!
Also when we are confident, we look so beautiful that our flaws are not seen! Like these photos of you… all I see is inner beauty, glowing skin and a gorgeous face!

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Nikyta October 17, 2018 - 6:46 AM

Wow! how beautiful❤
Thank you for inspiring me❤

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Gabriella Jaftha October 17, 2018 - 7:12 AM

Why are you so amazing though! loving this so so much. I feel your realness and the beauty in your honesty. Continue to be you, do you!

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Chantelle October 17, 2018 - 8:29 AM

Queen!
Love that you’re 100% you and addressing the issues we all struggle with, keep the convo going!
We’re obsessed with you and your brand.
Lots of love
S&B x

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Emmanuelle October 22, 2018 - 2:26 PM

This is beautiful, thank you for sharing 🌻♥️

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